THE PROBLEM OF THE "LAZY CHILD"
Abstract
The article analyzes the problem of children's laziness through the prism of practical experience. The reasons for the lack of desire to perform household chores, study, and observe hygiene rules in the context of the specified issue are highlighted. The stages of getting rid of a child's laziness and the factors for harmonizing relationships in the family are clarified. The importance of the unity of parents and children in the process of overcoming laziness is proven. The main concepts of the article: fatigue (balance the child's work and rest); learned helplessness (increase the complexity of tasks for the child gradually); inconsistency in the amount of work performed (mandatory approval, description of its activity for the child); lack of positive attention to the child's activities, inability to achieve results (formation of self-love, which is the child's basic emotional need); psychological abuse (termination of violent communication and building relationships based on respect and trust); lack of motivation and natural data to achieve success in certain types of activities (focus on strengths and gradually develop the child's weak abilities to a sufficient, not idealized, level); own example (discipline yourself, understand yourself - form coping strategies); fast dopamine and a long-lasting sense of success (create a real space for the realization of the child's desires); peculiarities of the psychological organization of the personality and age-related changes (be interested in the tasks of the child's age, be supportive, point out achievements); lack of clear algorithms of actions (clear and consistent familiarization with how to do the complete task and approve the results).
So, the nature of a child's laziness is a rebus, and the process of solving it is an active action that can launch similar processes in the child. Organized and motivated children, with whom trusting relationships have been formed, are the responsibility of parents, because children are our continuation.
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